How do you perceive your spouse? Helpful or upsetting, or both (ambivalence)? A small, preliminary study of couples who had been married an average of 36 years found coronary calcification scores were highest in those who viewed and in turn were viewed by their spouses as "helpful and upsetting". This held true after control for confounders.
PositiveTip: "Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves" Philippians 2:3.